For Spouses & Partners
Resources and tools for those who love a responder or service member
Your Role Matters Too
Loving a first responder or service member comes with a quiet, heavy strength — the worry, the long shifts, the deployments, the solo days. This page gathers support built for the people who hold it all together at home. Everything here is confidential, and much of it is available around the clock. Your well-being is not an afterthought; it's the foundation.
Crisis & Immediate Support
Free, confidential support 24/7. Veterans press 1 to reach the Veterans Crisis Line.
Confidential support for veterans in crisis and their loved ones. Connects to responders trained in military culture.
24/7 confidential crisis line for first responders and their families, staffed by peers who understand.
24/7 free support for service members and their families — non-medical counseling, financial help, and more.
Community & Connection
A leading military family support organization offering community, resources, and advocacy for military spouses.
Advocacy, scholarships, and programs that support military families through every stage of service life.
Free mental health care from licensed professionals for military members, veterans, first responders, and their families.
Mental health advocacy and resources for first responders and their families, working to end the stigma.
Community and mental health support for first responders, veterans, and the families who love them.
Free online education helping civilians and family members understand military culture and the veteran experience.
Understanding Your Partner
Evidence-based information on PTSD for family members, including how to support a loved one and take care of yourself.
Trusted resources on traumatic brain injury (TBI) for caregivers and family members navigating recovery.
Guidance on recognizing warning signs, reintegration, and supporting a service member's mental health.
Stories and resources from veterans and family members about navigating mental health challenges together.
Family & Kids
Tools and videos to help young children cope with deployments, transitions, and big feelings.
Supports the educational and emotional well-being of military-connected children.
Resources for parents of infants and toddlers navigating the unique stressors of service life.
Programs that help military and first responder families with housing, financial relief, and family events.
Self-Care Tools
These tools are already part of your toolkit. Use them to check in with yourself, regulate your nervous system, and process what you're carrying.
Coping Strategies for the Hard Days
Name what you're carrying
You hold a unique load — the worry, the solo parenting, the waiting. Naming it isn't complaining; it's the first step in caring for yourself.
Protect small daily anchors
A morning walk, a cup of coffee in silence, a text with a friend who gets it. Tiny routines keep you grounded when everything else shifts.
You can't pour from an empty cup
Your partner's well-being matters, and so does yours. Rest, support, and boundaries are not selfish — they're how you stay in it for the long haul.
Find your people
Other spouses understand the life in a way no one else can. Connection with people who live it is one of the strongest buffers against isolation.
Remember: Supporting someone you love does not mean disappearing into their needs. You deserve the same care you give.
If you're in immediate danger, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.